The #Metoo Victims you will not hear about.

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If you live in India, unless you’ve beeen hiding under a rock, you would have heard about the #Metoo movement gathering pace in the country, in recent times.

Ironically, the #Metoo  movement in India is being subject to more ridicule than understanding. Starting from cheap shot memes on WhatsApp and downright degrading comments on Facebook, there is no dearth to the number of people who think this whole thing is an excuse for incorrigible manipulative women to get back at men ( The Rohtak sisters are just a convenient excuse, but not representative of the larger populace, are they?)

In the past 10 years or so, I was confided in by a handful of women and one man who were subject to intense sexual abuse at some point in their lives. And guess what, not in ONE instance did any of these people breathe a word about what happened to them – not to parents, not even to their spouses (in 2 instances I was the only person who knew).

And the perpetrators? Relatives, people with substantial respect/authority in educational/religious institutions who were close, family friends, and in one instance, the domestic help (there was not one case in which abuse was done by a stranger).

The more saddening part in these incidents is that these victims simply tried to block their memories of those events and move on but never really come to terms with it even many years, or decades later. At times when they recollect it during a vulnerable time (in one case almost after 20 years), they break down or shake in fear uncontrolingly wishing that they would rather die than go through that again.

The scars are just too deep despite all the time that passed.

The only word EVERY one of them described how they felt was ‘dirty’. They felt dirty after being abused even though they were the ones violated without a choice.

Of course, I had nothing to offer them than just my time and a patient ear. They begged me to secrecy. These people were psychologically scarred for life. I felt for them, but there’s nothing much I could do than show empathy and wishing that their fate would not fall on anybody else.

And why did these people not come out ever?

Because of how they thought they would be perceived in the society or even by those close around them.

Judging from the attitudes I have seen from most people around today, they weren’t wrong.

The bitter pill we need to swallow is that survivors such as these lie hidden among people like you and me. It could be your own spouse who you think you know too well, or your grown-up children who are married and with children of their own. It could also be some of the closest friends in your circle.

Do not for a second think it never happens to those around you just because you weren’t told or because you personally weren’t subject to abuse.

Victims will not open up to you about their past; not unless they have 100% trust in the fact that you would be sensitive to their story, wouldn’t judge them or hold it against them.And they will never confide in a person who they think cannot understand them – no matter who that person is. Doesn’t matter if it’s a parent, a sibling or a spouse.

No, they WOULD likely not have any PROOF either and just a story you have to take on their word because they weren’t prepared with a camera or an eyewitness to corroborate the story at time the abuse took place.

They are forced to live with their innner demons for the rest of their lives diverting their minds from anything that brings back memories of that tormented past. Sometimes never being able to come to terms with it and not even being able to talk about it.

What about the perpetrators?

They will get away scot-free most of the time because victims will almost never speak up. After all it’s the vulnerable who were targeted not the strong. Without a society that’s more sensitive towards victims of sexual abuse, victims will stay in the shadows and never call out the predators and in the end justice gets denied to these countless millions.

Remember that when you share that insensitive meme or post that comment ridiculing victims or talking among yourselves making fun of those who come out, remember that there is probably a victim close to you who is seeing your actions and burning inside, but will never let you know how they really feel – because you are just not trustworthy or understanding enough.

And know that if only people like you and me show that level of empathy, these victims would atleast get a chance to open up about their past.

We need to strive to create a better society where victims can open and speak without fear of ridicule or having to wait years for a MeToo movement to appear to gather the courage to speak up – a better society in which silent victims of sexual abuse need not suffer in silence for the rest of their lives.

Creating that better society is the moral responsibility of each one of us.

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The Last to Speak – A Quick Lesson in Leadership

Steemit Cover picture dimensionsI recently came cross an episode on the Tony Robbins Podcast in which the guest speaker Simon Sinek (the author of the NY Times Bestseller – ‘Start with Why’) speaks on his rules for success.

Of all the things Simon said in this 50-minute podcast, there was one fascinating point on leadership that stood out for me. Simon made his point using a rather lovely anecdote from Nelson Mandela’s life.

The late Nelson Mandela was one of the most globally loved leaders of the 20th century and the man had accredited some of his legendary leadership qualities to his father – a respected local tribal chief.

Mandela once reminisced about the time he used to accompany his father to the tribal meetings as a child. As per this legend, there were two things that he recollected from each of those meetings – the fact that everybody sat in a circle, and the fact his father (the chief) was always the LAST to speak.

This was the key point that Simon too was trying to drive home in his talk.

“When as a leader, if you are the last to speak, not only do you give everybody around the satisfaction of voicing their opinion, but you also gain the benefit of their insights”.

Practically everybody (from small team managers to the global corporate heads) know that listening is a key skill in leadership. And yet how often do you see a good leader with excellent listening skills?

In all my years in the corporate world, I have seen that the vast majority of managers and leaders are far more eager to hammer down their opinions in meetings than show the necessary patience to listen to insights of those around.

And many such ‘leaders’, despite all their ‘wisdom’ and ‘experience’ fail to get fresh perspectives simply because they are bad listeners and unaware of that personal drawback of theirs themselves.

Most of us believe we are good listeners based on our own prejudiced perspectives. Listening skills are actually quite hard to come and require a lot of practice. We often overestimate our listening skills because we really don’t have an objective way of knowing how fine our listening skills really are.

So, in a nutshell, how do you ensure that you become a great listener and thereby imbibe at least one excellent quality of great leaders? Simple – just be the last to speak.

Participating in the Blockchain and Cryptocurrency movement risk-free : How a platform called Steemit is changing the lives of regular folks like you and me!

 A Brief word on Blockchain and Cryptocurrencies before we start.

If you know me well enough by know, you would know that I’m somebody who believes in the value of blockchain technology and its potential to change the future.

For the uninitiated, a blockchain is a constantly growing de-centralised ledger that keeps a permanent record of all transactions that have taken place on it in a secure, chronological, and immutable way (that’s about as succinct a definition I can provide). It’s a technology that’s growing in popularity everyday because it removes the need to place trust in centralised entities/institutes/organisations.

Given that this technology is quite new and unexposed to most commoners, there is a lot of scepticism around blockchain and cryptocurrencies.

Cryptocurrencies are, by the way, one of the foremost ways in which blockchain is used today. Bitcoin was the first ever cryptocurrency mined on the first ever blockchain 9 years ago and has come a long way since. Despite the insane amount of volatility Bitcoin has faced, the year-on-year growth of Bitcoin and some of the other popular cryptocurrencies have been mind-numbing to say the least.

There’s a lot of misinformation and half-baked knowledge about this space today which his why people do not even think about this as an investment destination. Most traditional stock traders simply guffaw at cryptocurrencies or disregard them completely. Opinion on the value of cryptocurrencies is hugely split even among the biggest business influencers in the world today – while Bill Gates completely believes in them, Warrant Buffet can’t stand them!

If you don’t know what cryptocurrencies are, the shortest simple definition I can give is that they are digital tokens/assets that are decentralised (there is no centralised entity that holds them) and reside on a blockchain and are meant to be used for peer-to-peer transactions by removing the need for banks or other kinds of third-party intermediaries. Cryptocurrencies have exchanges of their own and their prices against fiat currencies such as the USD are dictated by demand and supply.

Cryptocurrencies are considered a store of value (like gold – but with a virtual existence) and their movement from one person to another is controlled by means of something called a ‘private key’ known only to the person who holds that given coin.

The global cryptocurrency market had touched 1 Trillion USD in December 2017 (after which it corrected considerably) and for most of the those who believe in Bitcoin (the granddaddy of cryptocurrencies) and its contemporaries, this is only the beginning.

Given that cryptocurrencies exist in a speculation driven unregulated environment, it is subject to a huge amount of volatility (that you simply don’t see in something like traditional equities) and watching a cryptocurrency grow to 10 times its value within a few months is not that uncommon!

PS: Bitcoin grew from about $1000 to almost $20,000 between January and December 2017 (a staggering 2000%) before correcting by over 70% and is now hovering around the $7500 mark- all this in less than 16 months. Given bitcoin’s volatility, for all I know, it will be up or down another $1000 before I finish writing and posting this article.

With this level of volatility, investing in an asset class like this is quite risky – it could exponentially multiply an investor’s wealth but and could also destroy the same in no time. Nevertheless, people who had the risk-appetite and foresight to park some funds in growing cryptocurrencies a year ago, have seen their investment grow multi-fold.

Additionally, many governments are not very keen on promoting cryptocurrencies because of their inherent nature of being unregulated and decentralised – which effectively means that any government’s control over them is practically nil. Therefore, governments (including the one in India, where I reside) has tried to take on cryptocurrencies by controlling the banks or exchanges that fund their purchase/sale.

Now to play the devil’s advocate, it is possible that cryptocurrencies ‘might’ just be a technological fad that will die out with time (even if blockchain technology per se survives). If that happens in the future, the value of these digital currencies might come to nought and would have eroded all its investors’ wealth – a reason why seasoned crypto investors always say, ‘do not invest in crypto more than what you can afford to lose’.

On the other hand, if cryptocurrencies do get adopted among mainstream audiences and institutions, the value of the major cryptocurrencies today might grow to an unestimable value in the future. Currencies such as Bitcoin, Ethereum, or Litecoin could be worth many times their current value and all those who held tight would find that this was the investment of their life.

Therefore, it is prudent to have a small investment in the crypto movement even though one should be wise to the vagaries of this investment and not gamble away hard-earned earnings blindly.

Even a modest investment equivalent to a few hundred dollars’ worth in the right cryptocurrency has the potential to fetch far greater returns than any other way of traditional investment.

However, is there a completely risk-free way to invest in cryptocurrencies with minimal or or even without an initial investment at all? In fact, I did figure out an answer to this question some time last year.

If your interest is piqued, read on.

If investing in cryptocurrency highly risky, how do I still participate without much risk?

I am going to beat about the bush a little bit, so do bear with me – it’ll be worth your while!

Social Media and us.

So what’s that hobby of yours you enjoy doing outside work?

Perhaps, you like writing blogs about various anecdotes in your life. Or perhaps, you like watching movies or sports. You could also be somebody who likes photography or art in general.

Irrespective of whatever is it that you like, there is a pretty good possibility that you would be posting about it in social media, say on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Reddit or whatever.

Even if you don’t post stuff about yourself or about your likes and interests, you probably do view/comment/like/share other posts you come across on social media; don’t you?

Social media is a big part of our lives in contemporary times and very few people today (at least among those who have access to an average quality of life) live completely isolated from social media. It often seems that almost every other person from the ages of 8 to 80 are in some way using social media networks. Hence, it is unequivocally likely that you too might be an active social-media participant who posts on social media or likes/comments/shares he posts of family, friends, acquaintances or others who you follow.

But what exactly do you get in return for those thousands of likes or comments using your Facebook/Twitter/Instagram etc. account?

Let me guess, nothing!

Well, you do get umpteen advertisements that are tailor-made for you based on your activity patterns, if that’s any consolation.

I have been a blogger for over 14 years now and have written original content on diverse topics over the years ranging from funny anecdotes from everyday life to commentary on social issues. I have written hundreds of answers on platforms such as Quora, on trading, on the Project Management Professional (PMP) exam, and whatnot. But despite the few hundred readers/followers I have organically gained over so many years, or the ‘views’ I fetched that were a few hundred thousand, or the occasional words of appreciation for the content I write, I never earned a penny for all my thousands of hours of effort I have put into writing and posting using social media platforms or personal blogs – I loved writing and therefore didn’t mind and continued to write anyway.

It’s not just me, there are probably millions of bloggers like me out there who have experienced the same.

We are all in some way or the other creating content and participating in  online ecosystem from which we really don’t gain much in return for the time we spend. We have, of course, entertained, and we have been entertained.

Social media and blogging platforms have given us a sense of connectivity that we are likely to achieve otherwise in real ilfe. But that’s about it.

Enter Blockchain into the Social Media Arena.

So what if at some point a social media platform emerged that actually paid people to participate in it? And what if the greater your involvement and participation, the greater your rewards?

Just about 2 years ago, two blockchain developers, Dan Larimer and Ned Scott developed the Steem blockchain and built a social media and networking website called ‘Steemit’ on it. The Steem blockchain produces Steem and Steem Dollars which are tradable tokens that are given as rewards to participants of the platform for posting, discovering, and commenting on content on the Steemit.com website.

Steemit.com may not have a great user interface like FB and on the face of it looks like a social media platform that existed 10 years ago with much more basic features. However, the underlying technology is what makes it interesting and something you should seriously consider using along with your regular platform.

Let me spare you the drab long technical monologue of how tokens are created on the platform or how the insides of it work. There are countless youtube videos like which can give you information on this. However, do take some time to go through explainer videos on what Steemit is all about – there are many on youtube, including this video here by Jerry Banfied – a popular Youtuber who swears by Steemit!

PS: The video is about an hour long, so do finish this post before you get around to it.

So coming to the original point – about investing in cryptocurrencies without risk

To cut the story short, starting last September, I started posting my blogs on Steemit each time I posted an article on my trusty old WordPress blog. In fact, I even reposted a lot of my old content (with a disclaimer from where it was adapted so that it couldn’t be flagged by the bot that detects plagiarised content). And despite being only moderately active because of office work for most these months, I still managed to gain over 420 followers and earn about USD $250 worth in Steem and Steem Dollars (Since Steemit is on a public blockchain, you can, in fact, view my wallet at this link).

In other words, I earned these rewards by simply posting blog articles, and by commenting/liking or sharing content of others who have been doing the same. And this is something I wasn’t putting even some extra effort into since I’d have written these blogs even if I had not known about Steemit.

For somebody who’s earned nothing for 14 years of blogging on WordPress and sharing posts on Facebook or Twitter, doing a wee bit of extra work to post in one extra website turned out quite well, didn’t it?  After receiving my earnings from Steemit, I even transferred most of my earnings to a cryptocurrency exchange (Bittrex) where I could use it to invest in other cryptocurrencies for the long term.

And guess what? My earnings are peanuts compared to what some of the regulars and early adopters on this platform earn.

Steemit is a great platform for bloggers!

An ordinary young Chinese girl, who’s been on the platform for over 2 years, has made total earnings of $392,000 worth (that’s 2.6 Cr INR for my fellow Indians)! The girl travels a fair bit and most of her blog posts are about Life, Food, Travel, Culture, Fashion and Cats! Check out the blog for Sweetsssj (that’s her nickname) over here

By the way, don’t think for a moment that you even have to write any elaborate posts at all to join this platform and earn a side income.

Steemit is for Photographers too!

Slowwalker (check link here), who I follow, is an amateur photographer who doesn’t write much in terms of word count but keeps visiting places and posts plenty of photographs that he takes. You can see how his average post earns about $300 in rewards.

And to think, I have more than a handful of friends and acquaintances who are brilliant with an SLR (including a guy who specialises in wildlife) who can take far better photographs and all they do is post them on FB to get a handful of likes. On Steemit, they could be far more appreciated, and they earn tangible rewards in return for all their efforts.

In fact, I have been telling some of them to join Steemit of late.

Steemit is practically for content creators of any kind actually!

I’ve seen so many creative people with a wide array of interests who earn far more on Steemit than I make with my full-time job.

There are musicians, trade-analysts, political commentators (there’s a guy who writes exclusively on Syria), and what not.

The popular content creators eventually start gathering followers over a period of time, and as followers grow, so do their earnings.

Another interesting thing you need to know is that the more exposure you get, and the more Steem you earn, and the more you earn, the bigger your voting power becomes. That makes you influential in the eco-system as each of your votes earns somebody else rewards too.

And Finally…

Steemit, the social media platform, is apparently only the beginning and there are possibly many more decentralised applications that could come up on the Steem blockchain which would make the blockchain far more valuable than it already is.

Each Steem token is value at about $2.6 today (last December it was worth close to $8 – like I said volatility is insanely high in this space) and today the Steem token is among the top 35 most valuable cryptocurrencies globally.

Given its unique model and the fact that it has a significant major first mover advantage in this space, it is highly likely that Steemit will be valued much more in the days to come and will have rapid growth in terms of users.

Therefore, if you want to have your little investment building up in the blockchain and cryptocurrency space, why not participate in this new platform – after all it really costs you nothing than the same time you would be spending on your good old Facebook or Twitter anyway.

So give it a try. Go to https://steemit.com/ and register your new account for free. There might be a small waiting period for registration, but it’ll be worth the trouble.

PS: I do hope that this article was worth your while and that someday in the future, you wil be writing back to me someday to thank me for letting you know about Steemit and how it changed your life! Cheers… 😉